Note: edit organizing owner Sarah Gant is exploring 14 ways love can be expressed during the first two weeks of February. This is the 1st installment.
“Reason is powerless in the expression of love.” — Rumi
Gather ye rosebuds while ye may, Valentine’s Day approacheth. If you live in Marin County and are hoping to find the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for your sweetie, please read on. This series of editorganizing.com blogs is aimed at exploring very deep expressions of love that don’t require heart-shaped boxes, aren’t necessarily pink or red, and might actually promote weight loss and sobriety for the reader or the loved ones of the reader. I’m giving a little shout out to my favorite local market, Andy’s, if you need a little chocolate to get you through in the meantime.
Expressions of Love. A few years ago, my boyfriend John and I were discussing weekend plans to go visit his mother at her assisted-living facility, and he asked me to get to his house by 10:30 so that we’d have enough time to pick up a nice lunch and get to her place before she prepared her own lunch. I said, “No problem.” He paused, looked me in the eyes, and said, “I know we all run late from time to time, but it would be an expression of love to me if you got here early so that we left right at 10:30. Okay?” A spell was cast. I nodded, and true to my word, I was there at 10:15 on Saturday morning.
Play this out the way lovers typically do and it would have sounded more like this: “We need to arrive at my mom’s apartment at noon or she’ll forget we’re coming and make herself a sandwich. You are always late. It drives me crazy when you’re late. Get here on time or I’m leaving without you!” To which I might have reasonably responded, “Get off my back. If you had a kid, and dogs, and this and that, you’d be late sometimes, too.” And we would tumbled headfirst into a rollicking good nag session.
An expression of love is when you do a small task or behavior for your beloved so that they don’t have to nag you to do it or whine about you never doing it. When I am on the verge of a nag or whine, I try to remember how much nicer it was for John to ask me to be on time as an expression of my love for him, and so it is common around here to hear us say things like, “It would really be an expression of love to me if you would pick up your dirty socks and shoes, and put them out in the laundry/mud room,” or “It would be an expression of love to me Mom if you would sew my skirt so I can wear it to school tomorrow.”
My business, edit organizing, is based in Marin County, California, and its entire purpose is to help homeowners throughout the Bay Area to regain control of the material items in the home, create and maintain systems and routines to clear out unwanted stuff and keep things in their designated spaces, and relearn the courtesies of living together in a shared space so that harmony replaces chaos.
For the next two weeks, I am going to offer some ideas for expressions of love. If you have suggestions, I’d love to hear them!